Pastor Norma's Journal of Wisdom

Friendships


A few thoughts on friendship…

You will have many friends throughout your lifetime. Some will stay and some will go.

Glean from each one the rich treasure within them.

Some may betray you… but that’s okay. Then they weren’t your true friends.

Once, maybe twice, you will find a friend who is a “kindred heart” or “bosom buddy”.

That one will love you for who you are, not what you do or don’t do.

He or she will be a lifetime friend… and a wonderful confidante and support for you. Cherish that one and work at maintaining that relationship.

Relationships take a lot of time and effort. But that kind of relationship is worth all the effort it takes.

Friendship is the only cement that will hold the world together.

— Winston Churchill

Friendships I’ve treasured…

I have many that I have treasured over the years.

Elaine Hall Strong is the longest friendship I’ve had. I met her when she was 12 years old and I was 14. She stood up with me when I got married. When she married Jim he also became a very dear friend of ours. We went to the same church for many years and raised our children together. Your Dads will remember them. We are still very dear friends and see each other often. We’ve been through a lot together.

Pat Curtis is also one of my dearest friends… in fact we are as close as any sisters could ever be. Likewise, we have been friends for about 30 years and have been through a lot together also. Pat loves me for who I am… she lets me “be me” and vice versa. She has stood with me through many trials and heartaches and troubles, and she is loyal and steadfast.

Grandpa and I became best friends before we became lovers and that was very wise and good.

He is still my best and dearest friend. Our friendship has helped make our marriage strong. There’s no one else I would rather be with or do things with. As of today we’ve been friends for over 50 years and it never gets old or boring.

Friendship is like money, easier made than kept.

— Samuel Butler

Thoughts on being a friend…

Accept your friends for who they are.

Do not put demands on them. Be loyal! Do not speak against them to anyone.

When they are down be there for them to encourage and lift them up.

Hold them close through trials and sorrow. Tell them everything will be alright.

Encourage them to pursue their dreams, and help them unlock the door, if possible.

Believe in them and tell them so. Don’t be afraid to say what they need to hear; not always what they want to hear.

Present other sides of a picture so they will have options to consider. Don’t neglect to make memory times with them. Be honest. Don’t ever lie to them even if it would be more convenient.

The essence of true friendship is to make allowances for one another’s little lapses.

— David Storey

Signs of a true friend…

Loyalty, honesty, encouragement, acceptance, steadfastness, forgiving, enjoys your company, gives you your space, keeps you close at heart, not critical nor judgmental, lifts you up, believes in you, supports you when you’re weak, marches to the same drum beat, doesn’t listen to negative things about you nor say negative things about you, values you, sends you “warm fuzzies”, thoughtful, kind, comforter, dependable.

Be cautious in lending money to friends, you might lose both.

— H. Jackson Browne, Jr.

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