Pastor Norma's Journal of Wisdom

The Golden Rule

The Golden Rule in my life…

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” – that is a very basic foundation to build strong relationships. We don’t want people to treat us in any negative way we can think of and vice versa. It is really quite easy to get in the habit of living by that principle if you just make a conscious effort to do it. To think before you speak and check up on yourself to see if you’re following that “rule”. The other golden rule of my life is that I will always be open to God and His will for my life. My behavior and attitudes, lifestyle, etc. cannot be changed by man-made laws and rules. Jesus and His life is the rule I judge my own life by. He is the true Golden Rule.

Slowly and painfully man is learning that he must do unto others what he would have them do to him.

— Anthony Eden

We reap what we sow…

The world says it this way: “What goes around comes around”. If you sow carrot seeds you won’t get radishes— God’s principle of sowing and reaping is consistent in all things. If you are a generous, giving person, people will give back to you; one caution is that our motives have to be pure—we don’t give to get—we give to bless others.

Did you ever notice that if you give someone a smile they usually return one to you? It is our human nature to respond in kind. I’ve run into clerks in a store or waitresses, etc. and they can be all but kind. If someone is rude or snappy, our tendency is to snap back or be rude ourselves. If we have a bad attitude it’s amazing how many people we run into that day with bad attitudes. That’s because we reap what we’re sowing. If we sow peace we will reap peace, so it is with joy, kindness, compassion, etc. We can stop a cycle of anger, bitterness, jealousy, etc. by not reacting in return the same way.

A soft answer turns away wrath and anger. Screaming matches never accomplish anything. If I sow seeds of discord I will reap discord. God’s word says if I sow corruption I will reap corruption; if I sow in righteousness, I will reap peace, mercy, and joy.

The Golden Rule is of no use to you whatever unless you realize it is your move.

— Frank Crane

Experience is the best teacher…

Sometimes we are hard learners. We need to be “observers” and learn what works and what doesn’t work. If I am observant I will see what causes good responses from others and vice versa. If I’m having constant problems and bad luck, I need to look at what I’m doing and make some changes, remembering that I will produce a crop of whatever I am sowing. Learning from our mistakes is the best education!

People think of the Golden Rule as something mild and innocuous, like a baby lamb. But when they suffer an infringement of it, they think they have been mauled by a panther.

— Francis Wren

Living by the Golden Rule…

As I said earlier our tendency is to treat others as they treat us. One principle I’ve learned, though it isn’t easy to put into practice, is that I can’t let someone else’s sin cause me to sin. I can’t go through life blaming others for my misfortunes. If I take responsibility for my own life I will be much better off. Just because someone is mean to me doesn’t mean I have to be mean to them also. If we seriously take the golden rule of God’s word “Treat others the way you would like to be treated; do unto others as you would have them do unto you”, then we will make our small part of the world a better place to live.

Let me tell you a story about this that taught me a great lesson. One day I went to a very large craft store to do some shopping. I needed help finding what I was looking for. I couldn’t find a clerk, so I went up front and asked a very abrupt cashier if I could have a clerk. She snapped at me with, “If you’ll just be patient I’ll get you one.” I went back to the area where I was looking and a very abrupt clerk appeared. She was snippy and acted like she was doing me a big favor to wait on me.

After several snaps at me, I gently reached out and touched her arm and I said, “I’m sorry. You must be having a very difficult day.” She started to cry and told me how her husband was making life hell for her and she just couldn’t take it any more. I was able to encourage her to take the steps of change she was considering and I prayed with her.

Sadly we are often the brunt of someone’s pain and anger because of someone or something in their life. When we recognize that, we can sow some good seeds in their life and maybe be a catalyst to change things in their life.

Commit the Golden Rule to memory— now commit it to life.

— Edwin Markham


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