Pastor Norma's Journal of Wisdom

Happiness


The value of happiness…

Happiness is elusive— one minute you have it and the next minute you lose it because the circumstances that brought you happiness have changed. So the thing to determine is “What really makes me happy?” There are many things that can make us happy.

Before we can determine the value of anything we must examine it closely. So let’s examine happiness.

Happiness means being elated and lifted up… it is the opposite of sadness. Usually, buying something makes us happy… or going on a trip. Or taking a vacation, or going to a party… and the list goes on. Think about it and make your own list of what makes you happy.

There are a lot of things that make me happy; but they don’t bring me true happiness. To me, true happiness is a state of well-being in my soul.

Happiness is something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.

— Chinese Proverb

Finding happiness…

True happiness enters when you are content; when you are at peace with yourself and with others. And, in my life, I have found true happiness in my relationship with the Lord God. People change; circumstances change; but the Lord never changes. He is the anchor that holds me firm when I am faced with things that rob me of happiness.

I have found true happiness in helping others. Self-centered and selfish people seldom are happy. They are always searching for “things” for themselves and it is an exhausting task. They are on a rabbit trail, looking for this thing or that thing to make them happy and when they think they’ve found it, it only lasts a little while and they are off on the chase again. Bringing happiness to others brings it to yourself. I have also found true happiness in finding contentment; to be at peace with where I am, not waiting for some utopia, but “seizing the day” and making the best of it and the opportunities of that day.

Happiness comes with the absence of strife; it is vital to live your life as a peace-maker. Nothing can cause happiness to flee like a broken relationship with someone. Be humble and do whatever it takes to make peace and keep peace. Another source of happiness for me is being fulfilled; finding my place in this world and filling that place!

When I was living to try to make everybody else happy and trying to fit into their expectations of me, I was miserable. But when I found the place God had for me and filled that place (as a Pastor) it has brought me the greatest peace and contentment and happiness I could have ever known.

It is not in doing what you like but in liking what you do that is the secret to happiness.

— James M. Barrie

Share happiness…

We live in a world today that is very sad. Sadness, loneliness, and depression are common maladies.

Drug and alcohol use is at an all-time high. People take “pills” for everything from headache to heartache. It is difficult to find anyone who is truly happy.

When you taste happiness find someone (it won’t be hard) who needs some and share it with them. It doesn’t have to be anything big or costly.

It can be a kind word, a friendly smile, a gentle touch, or a hug.

Or you can send a card, or note, or letter. Or maybe one rose from the florist… or just a phone call saying, “I care”.

If you take time to bless and encourage others you will be the one who will benefit from it. There’s a saying, “The fragrance of a flower given remains on the hand of the one who gives.” It is so true.

A lot of times someone who is sad, depressed, or lonely just needs someone to talk to— to unload on. Develop a listening ear, and be willing to give time to someone in need.

Be free with words of encouragement, praise and appreciation. Be free with compliments… not flattery… but sincere words of a positive quality you see in a person.

Think of things that bring you lasting happiness. Concentrate on those things and share them with others.

Happiness quite unshared can scarcely be called happiness; it has no taste.

— Emily Bronte

On living a happy life…

Try to face life with a positive attitude. Trouble comes and then it goes. It is a passing thing. Think carefully through something before you do it. Remember that there are consequences to wrong behavior. The consequences bring unhappiness. Don’t put your expectations in people so high that when they disappoint, you don’t go down to the pit.

Don’t sweat the small stuff.

Try to choose friends who will build you up and not tear you down.

If you fail at something don’t stay down. There’s an old song that says, “Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again.” Don’t be afraid or ashamed to admit you are wrong or have made a mistake.

We all make mistakes… live simply. Don’t make life too complicated. It is difficult at best.

There are some things we have no control over. Accept that fact and concentrate on accomplishing something you can do.

Don’t waste your time trying to do something that will never amount to anything.

Work hard… and learn to laugh at yourself.

Happy people are those that others like to be around.

Happiness is contagious!

A perverse temper and fretful disposition will make any state of life whatsoever unhappy.

— Cicero

 

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