Pastor Norma's Journal of Wisdom

Honesty and Trust


The importance of honesty…

There’s an old saying: Sin has many tools but a lie is the handle that fits them all. There is no such thing as a “little white lie” either— a lie is sin and sin is black. One lie always leads to another and another and eventually we’ve dug a hole that is very difficult to get out of. Also when we lie it is difficult to remember what we have said and keep the facts straight. A lie leads to deceit and hiding behind the mask of deceit is hypocrisy. Honesty is truly always the best policy.

Honesty pays dividends both in dollars and in peace of mind.

— B.C. Forbes

Honesty in daily life…

There are many opportunities in our daily lives to be dishonest and no one might ever find out. But you know! (And God knows.) With the first act of dishonesty you feel pricked in your conscience. You know it’s not right, however, the next time the prick isn’t so strong, and so on until you can lie or cheat, or steal and you feel no prick at all. That is a very dangerous place to be because you get sucked into a pit where your dishonesty leads you into areas you never thought you would enter. You do things you thought you would never do. You have formed some bad habits in the process that are very hard to break. Dishonesty is a trap that leads you into many other areas of sin and deceit. You will be amazed at what you learn to tolerate in yourself and in others. Eventually your dishonesty will be exposed and you will break the trust of people who believed in you and trusted you.

If you are not honest at all, everybody hates you, and if you are absolutely honest you get martyred.

— Donald Marquis

The importance of trust…

Trust is vitally important in every relationship that you establish. Once trust is broken it is very difficult to reestablish it. Trustworthiness is the foundation of our character. Am I truly what I say I am? Will I do what I say I will do? Am I dependable? Will I follow through on my commitments? It is very difficult to find those you can trust. When you do find someone you can trust they are a precious treasure in your life. Loyalty is a by-product of trust. If we are going to confide in someone and we preface our confiding with “can I trust you?”, then you had better not confide in that one. That very question indicates that there is a doubt in that person’s trustworthiness.

No virtue is more universally accepted as a test of good character than trustworthiness.

— Harry Emerson Fosdick, D.D.

Being trustworthy…

Trustworthiness is one of the most important attributes in our lives. If we are trustworthy we show that we are responsible, loyal, dependable, and have integrity. Aren’t these the qualities you look for in a friend? And most assuredly in one you would choose as a marriage partner? These are the things an employer is looking for in an employee. If we are not trustworthy we will have few friends. One of the saddest things that can be said about a person is: “Beware! That person cannot be trusted.” “True blue through and through” people are very hard to find. Grandma encourages you to develop that attribute in your life with all diligence. Unfortunately as I think about this today, I realize that I can count on my fingers the people who have proven trustworthy in my life, and even sadder is the fact that I can count them on one hand. Oh, people have indicated that I could trust them, through their words and initial actions, but when it came down to where the “rubber hits the road”, “the nitty gritty”, their actions proved differently. Learning you can’t trust someone causes the greatest pain in your heart and places a strain on the relationship that can hardly be endured.

To be trusted is always greater a compliment than to be loved.

— George Marshall

 

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